Workplace people learn to "keep up appearances," the secret.

<P> "Hello, is Lucy. Kellaway it?" Phone over there came a woman's voice, "I've put you through a xxx." Pause in the "ticking" sound, she has .said: "Sorry! xxx just received another call ... ... Please forgive me." </ P> <P> this annoying "phone" power game it is then common enough. .Important people do not dial the number, and they want to talk to, but not so important people, will have to be forced to wait for phone turned on. .</ P> <P> this talk about that Monday, the difference is, that person is not particularly important. .She was only a reporter, or less like me. .Finally, when I spoke, I did not feel particularly willing to do what she asked me to do. .</ P> <P> After that, I go out and get lunch with a friend. .I suddenly appeared in his office, told the front desk I came. .Then began to wait, wait. .After a long - time enough that he wrote a few emails, a phone call, and then to go to the bathroom - the elevator door opened, and he came out walking, looking calm. .</ P> <P> he, too, playing "I'm more important than you," the game. .I seem to once again become the losing side. .</ P> <P> After lunch, I made up a two way home, and this power on the power play theory of why people get angry. .First of all, I am now more trouble in life, age: very important, so that others can not enjoy the game, but not important enough to want to play the game yourself. .</ P> <P> Secondly, in today's office life, small game of power played a more important role than ever before. .Modern enterprise is no longer you are in a hierarchy in the distribution of grand formal position, so you have to play the game through to find such a position for themselves. .</ P> <P> in the rest of the time that week, I look around for the power game, that these examples abound. .So I summed up some of how to play "I'm more important than you are" rules of the game, but they are by no means the most comprehensive. .Everyone playing in his own way. .Listed below, but I work from side to gather a few basic guidelines. .These rules are divided into two categories: let the important people feel important; and let other people feel small. .</ P> <P> Most of these rules are time-related: To win, you must always show your time to others than their more valuable. .You are more busy, your diary is full. .To often the case. .</ P> <P> · listening: listening only selectively, but not in the people about their own lives to listen. .Better ask the question: "What home?" But as long as they start to answer, you immediately point of view from their shoulders the past, or start on your PDA to do list for your tables. .</ P> <P> · clothing Password: of important people, have this choice: extremely fashionable and expensive, or extremely dirty. .I have to work with someone, he is too important, so that pants can not be stuffed shirt. .</ P> <P> · E-mail: Here are three practices. .Let someone else offers you the e-mail; addition to basic information than do not reply to anything; if the response to Do not worry about whether it makes sense to see your information. .</ P> <P> · BlackBerry e-mail (Blackberries): Always carry your BlackBerry email devices, and often use it to interrupt the conversation to answer the phone, reading e-mail. .Blackberry is very suitable for showing off at the meeting. .</ P> <P> · fruit: Every day is called a cut fruit to your office. .This shows that you are too busy, so no time to peel orange peel personally, but critical to the company you are concerned about your diet. .Fruit should be placed on your coffee table, and close all day wrap, suggesting you are too busy, so no time to eat. .Visitors will never be provided with fruit, because of their vitamin C levels were not so important to you. .</ P> <P> · your office: one in the corner office, coupled with slick furniture, and you and Nelson. Mandela (Nelson Mandela) and Tony. Blair (Tony Blair) in the photo, it will be very .good. .But without these, you can also do a lot. .In smaller offices, you can let other people sit on the soft sofa, put them at a disadvantage. .Even if you do not have Office, you can ensure that the person answering the phone for you (on the phone) said that "such and such an office." .</ P> <P> · words: There are three options in this regard. .Sound is very small, as well as others to try to listen to; sounds great, as well as other people have to listen to, whether willing; or (the more powerful), arrogant, talk slow, a waste of time for the audience to give them that impression: .Do you think they are too stupid and can not understand normal speech. .</ P> <P> · lunch: go to a grand, foreman and understanding of your restaurant. .Encourage your guests point of the most favorite vegetables on the menu. .Then the waiter asks you: "business as usual, sir?" The result, it is not on the menu in a clear baked Dover Sole fish. .. </ P> <P> if this list makes you feel tired, I would like to introduce you to the game immediately to the other a more advanced version, this version will subvert all of the above rules. .A colleague of mine recently interviewed HSBC Bank (HSBC) Chairman. .When she returned to the office, she told us, Mr. Dong Shichang personally sent her the corridor and look for her coat. .</ P> <P> This reminds me about a year ago, he had a large company CEO, together with over lunch. .I can not remember exactly what was talked about. .However, I clearly remember, he personally went to the reception to take me inside. .</ P> <P> Both are the highest level in playing a game (perhaps unconscious), called: "Let's pretend I'm not important to you." .If you can play this game well, you can oyster. .</ P> <P> Unfortunately, when you and I pretend when seemingly polite, there is less of a barrier. .In this game, to good at this, you must have been important to mess Caixing. .</ P>.